Response to Sean’s Letter: we call bullshit

This letter is merely an empty letter, a clear public relations statement so that, god forbid, you don’t actually look guilty of doing something wrong.  If you really believe in what you said and that this is sufficient, you clearly still do not get it. Your words are that of an entitled man that minimizes your actions. This is a clear statement of denial.

“no one has the right to engage in any conduct that is or has the appearance of domestic violence.”

This is absolutely disrespectful and is in fact domestic violence.

Oh and by the way…….
We will be critical of your work as an educator, “leader” or  ”mentor”. As you might recall a book called “Pedagogy of the Oppressed, Freire speaks of praxis and defines it as “reflection and action upon the world in order to transform it.” Through praxis, oppressed people can acquire a critical awareness of their own condition, and, with their allies, struggle for liberation.

In your role you have young men looking to you to teach them how to not only be powerful students in their schools and in their community but they also look to you to show them how to love, respect and support their mothers, sisters, daughters, partners and friends. They were looking to you to model for them how to be healthy men of color. They are still looking to you. What will you do? Praxis.

This is not personal, you just happened to make yourself an example. We actually write this for the 2 womyn who were killed at the hands of their ex husbands  in Tucson in the last 2 weeks and for the womyn in Delhi who was gang raped and beaten to death and although you may not see any kind of connection between yourself and these womyn, you need to. You need to see your behavior as a contribution to the maltreatment of womyn.

The letter you wrote is not good enough. If you care to truly engage in your personal struggle and evolution, you will not refer to your actions as merely “charges” but in fact state what you did and how you think it has impacted your family, friends and community.

You will include conversations of race, class and gender in your work.

You will begin to examine where you fall on the continuum of abuse.

You will begin to be aware of how you show up to your sisters in the struggle and give a shit about it.

Acknowledging yourself as macho will no longer cut it. You have a choice, now how you are going to put your reflection into action? People are watching you; many are hoping that you come through.

Accountability is hard and not for everyone.  So what will it be?

3 thoughts on “Response to Sean’s Letter: we call bullshit

  1. Seconding that ‘Right On’. I like that this response just lays out the facts and the argument speaks for itself. I was happy to see you mention the “appearance of domestic violence” phrase because I remember that line jumping out at me when I read Sean’s letter as the worst most clueless line ever.

  2. You guys are real assholes! Do you like to kick people when they are down? I can’t stand men that hit on womyn, but obviously dude knows that he was wrong, so you are just going to keep on bashing him. yous are the kind of fuckers that would call La Migra on your own peeps, just ’cause you think it would be righteous in that particular situation. No, it is never okay to turn on your own peeps! What you are doing is counter-revolutionary, and you need to recognize that and be self critical of these bogus ass blogs. Pancho Villa, and Che wouldn’t think twice about putting a bullet in someone that was counter-revolutionary. You sound like a fucking right-winger for real!!! And, you need to check yourself!

    If I was a 14 year old gang banger that killed someone, you’d probably have me spending the rest of my life in prison, or even have me put to death. That’s capital punishment lady. I can tell you that that there is no way in hell that I still think the way that I did when I was that young.

    People change, and people grow from their mistakes. I know that Mr. Acre isn’t a teenager, no far from it, but still is fully capable of learning from his mistakes as are all of us.

    Yous guys are trying to crucify this man, and that’s fucked up. Shame on you.

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