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Mother to Son: familial obligations & roles as wombyn

21 Jan

It is almost humorous how our rolls have changed.

malintZINE wasn’t the beginning of recognition on part of the injustices against Chicanas by their fellow Chicanos, but has been a catalyst to verbally combat the hetero-patriarchy that has thrived within the Ethnic Studies movement for too long.

Privilege is not an easy thing to give up, so it is not surprising to the wombyn of color that those who have been proud of their power status feel targeted, victimized, and wronged.  When the oppressed finally point out the oppressor, his first move is to be defensive and lash out.

We really thought you were better than that, because you preach the core of Tucson’s ethnic studies where ever you go. In Lak Ech (you are my other me), panche be (seeking the root of the truth), and most importantly, re-humanizing through a de-colonial anti-violent framework.

Wombyn have been accused of aiding the patriarchy that so demeans them. Articles published by allies are accused of irony as a deflection from the real problem. When other men step up and point out the macho bullshit that is frequently used by their brothers in every day dialogue, there is no comment from the perpetrator.

This type of hypocrisy is ill-informed and truly divisive.

The wisdom of wombyn allows the idea that generational oppression can take some of the blame for the indecencies that continue today. Boys are taught by men how to be men and how to be man is to not be woman. It is a vicious cycle that has been used as an excuse for the behavior of today, synonymous with the whites excuse for the treatment of peoples of color. The continued ignorance of the commonalities of these inequalities is astounding, considering white supremacy is a main topic of discussion of the good ol’ boys club. Tezcatlipoca is self-reflection. Practice what has been preached for so long, or learn to listen to others who’ve not had the privilege to continuously reflect and practice self and communal care.

We’re not asking much, besides our voice be respected, and we’re being polite. We should not have to ask for a place to speak when we were brought into this world to be the force that holds you in your place – our traditional role as caregivers, teachers, and mothers. We’re not asking for you to relinquish all that you’ve accomplished, we’re just asking that they stop using our backs as a platform to stand on while you rub our noses in what you won’t give us credit for.

We’re not your bitches.

We want the men in this movement to acknowledge all we have sacrificed to continue this struggle next to them, even though they have continued to walk in front of us. We want more than politically correct apologies. We want more than the discussion of May 3rd at a TUSD board meeting, the only macho documented injustice against wombyn that is supposed to serve as a deflection to a white man for what our brown brothers do to us every damn day. We want your unwarranted support, as we have given you ours. We loved you like sons, brothers, fathers and you have treated us like disposable objects. We are saying no more, and we mean it this time.

This is more than just a time-out.

This is us shoving a mirror in your fucking face and demanding you see who you really are.

Yes, we are being aggressive.

Yes, we are using force.

And yes, we are silencing you.

Please tell us, how does it feel?

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One response to “Mother to Son: familial obligations & roles as wombyn

  1. Gregório

    January 26, 2013 at 4:46 pm

    I like this post as a clear and direct summary of the demands, strategies, and goals of malintZINE.

     

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